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We might have a hard time believing that the expectations we have for our child’s behavior can unintentionally cause that behavior. In particular, with a spirited child, his success can be positively impacted by his parents’ expectation . . .
  • Sunday, May 13, is Mother’s Day. Whatever your personal qualifications may be for motherhood, you’ll astonish yourself by discovering you are more capable to handle some of what you were anxious about, while still being less . . .
  • Q: I have a difficult time knowing whether we should give our kids an allowance, and if so, whether the amount should be related to their behavior, perform-ance, and responsibility. I’m really not very confident about this issue. . . .
  • Can there be any more to say about sibling battles? Apparently so. This problem is a real trigger for many families, with parents feeling helpless to stop the hostility. Most parents follow the same approach their parents applied with them . . .
  • After last week’s question regarding sibling rivalry, the same issue has come up repeatedly, compelling me to add to this challenging topic. There’s always much more that can be said about this family dilemma. Families are certainly . . .
  • Q: I have two boys age, 8 and 10. They play very well together, but there is more and more conflict between them and they are playing together less and less. No matter what I do, I can’t seem to turn the tide. . . .
  • We all have different temperaments and communication styles, sometimes leading to misunderstandings with our family and friends. Conflicts may erupt, creating serious rifts in these relationships, with the “fight or flight” reaction separating . . .
  • Q: My two kids are being pretty selfish and rude lately. I’m not sure whether it’s their ages (16 and 13) or our family situation. My husband and I aren’t getting along, and may even separate soon, or at least he’s threatening to move out. . . .
  • Sadly, divorce is much too prevalent. When chronic conflict is an integral part of the marriage, one or both parties believe divorcing will make things better. However, these same parents often continue to battle after their marriage . . .
  • Last week’s article included a question asking whether there is someone you can depend on when you need help. Someone who provides reassurance. This is a particularly important question for adolescents. . . .
  • When asked by the regional Community Partnerships for Protecting Children project manager to present a community talk several weeks ago on anxiety in children and families, a small group showed up. Although this provided an ideal . . .
  • Several stories highlighting the behavior of young children prompted me to write about this. It is no surprise that when children are behaving at their very worst, with their parents at their wits’ end, this is when it’s the most difficult . . .
  • Valentine’s Day is coming up next week. For some, it’s just another day, while for others, it carries real significance. These “romantics” may have high expectations of love notes, flowers, chocolates, dining out, all associated with February 14. . . .
  • Q: Whenever I ask my child something, she replies in a rude way. Example: Could you please be quiet, it’s rest time now. And she replies back to me, “You be quiet!” How should I respond to her? . . .
  • Q: I’m recently divorced with three kids. We have 50/50 custody, with our kids spending alternate weeks with me, then alternate weeks with my ex-husband. I’m still in shock that I’m no longer married and my ex moved on so fast. . . .
  • Many people with whom I have recently spoken are expressing feeling low, more pessimistic, less tolerant. Our world is feeling less safe, life a bit more unpredictable, with the media exposure wearing thin our “protective layers.” . . .
  • Q: Looking for suggestions about how to manage screen time. Problem is every time we walk in the door of our house, a child says, Can I have screen time? and every time there is a moment of nothing, a child says, Can I have screen time? . . .
  • While spending time with my family over the holidays, I reflected on what makes New Year’s resolutions successful. Although different for everyone, I recalled how determined I was to “do better” every year, both with setting personal goals . . .
  • Q: My husband and I are almost at the point of divorce, or at least I am. I’m not sure he’s even aware of how the fighting, and my anger, are leading me to that decision. He is so concerned with his work, his computer, and . . .
  • Q: I just opened my newspaper and came upon a major article about anxiety in teens and the implications of such. While I haven’t read it yet, I wondered what your thoughts and observations are about anxiety in our children . . .
  • Q: I just read your article about holiday family stress, which really hit a nerve. We just spent Thanksgiving with my family — my parents, my grandfather (my mother’s father), both my brothers and their wives, a sister and . . .
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