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Click on the headline above to access the archive for Judith Hatch-Orme’s “Kids & Families First” column.
  • Q: I’ve had some upsetting situations lately, I guess during COVID mostly with people working at home and using social media and emails more. I feel like a few of my friends haven’t been very sensitive at times, by saying things ...
  • We’ve experienced different life-changing outcomes from the last year of imposed isolation — some negative, others positive. Having more time for self-reflection, a slower pace and fewer demands has been a blessing for some, while ...
  • Q: My kids are 15 and 18. I’d like to know how to have mutual respect and trust with them. I’m not sure either of them is very trustworthy, because we often have incidents that undermine my trust. I just thought it would help us to ask ...
  • Q: I have been having really frustrating conversations lately with my adult daughter. She seems more angry with me and unwilling to listen and accept my advice. I see her and her boyfriend making some mistakes that my husband ...
  • Next Sunday is Valentine’s Day. What will happen depends on the strength of our commitment to the everyday work of love — more importantly, to understanding the how of love. If we were to focus less on the flowers and chocolates ...
  • While we may fantasize about having a peaceful, calm household, free of sibling suffering, the only way to prevent the inevitable rivalry is to have just one child. Children will always have their power struggles, yet siblings are ...
  • Is there anything more frustrating or distressing for parents than sibling rivalry? The question repeatedly asked is: “How can I stop my kids’ fighting?” Whether it’s an intact family or two homes after divorce, sibling dynamics can ...

  • Q: The entire holiday season has made me feel like I’m just swimming against the current. It’s been really hard setting boundaries with my family, trying to keep my kids and husband and me safe and healthy. Not just family, but some ...
  • With the prevailing circumstances bringing such hardship to so many, it can be difficult to embrace the holiday spirit. While it’s certainly uplifting to observe the beautiful decorative lights transforming area homes and businesses ...
  • Too many conscientious mothers and fathers think parenting is all about homework, car pools, and town soccer, and are not experiencing much joy with their families. Larry Cohen encourages parents to ‘lose their dignity’ in order ...

  • Q: I’m a devoted, divorced dad, recently remarried. My ex-wife is still single, although dating. My 9-year-old daughter was edgy since getting back from an overnight with her mom. She was “tightly wound” when she came home, which ...
  • As a couples therapist, as well as a divorce mediator, I’ve had the experience of working both “sides of the fence”: with couples struggling to stay together after years of disconnection and chronic conflict, and with those headed to court ...

  • How often do you berate yourself, carrying on with self-loathing, denigrating yourself for not being “good enough, smart enough, sufficiently talented”? We all have those quick, knee-jerk reactions to situations in which we feel ...
  • My last column addressed a question from a partner of a divorced dad. Struggling with rejection from his daughters, she asked for more suggestions. She admitted her tendency is to voice strong opinions to her partner about ...
  • Q: I’m in a relationship fraught with conflict. I’m living 90% of the time and in love with a divorced father of two young girls, 6 and 4 years old. He has approximately 40% parenting time. Although we waited a year before exposing ...
  • Q: This seems like a timely question. I am having a difficult time talking to my kids about transitioning back to school. With all the different options and uncertainties, what do you recommend I do or say? A: This is something that’s ...
  • Although our inbox is where we receive most of our messages now, we can all recall the excitement of opening our USPS mailbox to discover a handwritten letter addressed to us. A friend, a relative, a former roommate, or a ...
  • Q: I have a 10-year-old daughter who reacts to many typical daily situations with negativity (“cup half empty”). I’ve been trying to help her change her attitude by telling her to look at the positives, just flipping her view around, and ...
  • A woman I’ll call Joan was visiting her father after her mother died. Each time she drove into the city in which she grew up, the same knot tightened in her stomach. Since her father had been widowed, he had begun making inappropriate ...
  • Q: Having a beach sit . . . and really worried (and wicked annoyed) by all the parents yelling at their kids. It is a “do as I say right this minute just because” situation with parents repeating the child’s name over and over and ...
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